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Manners & Etiquette: A Guide To Communicating With Porn Stars & Sex Workers

Guys. And girls. But, really, it's probably just the guys that I'm targeting on this one. Regardless, pay attention. This is important stuff. You probably would love to communicate with your favorite porn star, right? Or maybe you're going to use the services of an escort or some other sex worker or somebody in the sex industry.

That would be fun, wouldn't it? It helps the fantasy and all of that. I get it. We get it. We enjoy communicating with our fans, for real! But there is some stuff you need to know about first: manners and etiquette.

I know you are aware of these terms, at least as a concept and theory. But it seems like many of you forgot about these things and think it's okay to communicate with us without any manners whatsoever. So let's cover what not to do and instead what you should do when communicating with your favorite porn stars or sex workers of any kind.

Please note that if you're an escort or something like that and don't consider yourself a sex worker that's totally cool. I don't mean to offend, just trying to keep things simple here, and often don't know the politically correct terms.

Before I can tell you what to do, I want to tell you what not to do. This is an easy one. Don't be a dick. Period. How do you avoid being a dick? In simple terms, approach us (online) like you would if you were meeting a girl in a social setting for the first time. Or meeting a coworker, friend, sibling, relative, etc. Yes, that's right, use your freaking manners!

It's not anything more complex than that. But let's cover some examples to help you out. The first big one is how you address us. You likely know our name (or stage name, etc) so address us by our name. For example, you could message me on Pornhub here and say, "Hello Stella, I am Bob. It's nice to meet you. How has your day been?" You can go a step further and tell me a bit about yourself as well, which I highly suggest you do. What I don't want is to read something like, "Hey sugar tits, I'd like to fuck your ass and cum on your face!" because that won't get a reply from me, not a good one anyhow.

I also don't want you to send me a dick pic. If I want one, I'll ask for it. And I won't ask for it. I don't want to watch you jerking off either. I'll make an exception if you're doing a cum tribute of me though! But maybe you should introduce yourself first before just sending me a link to a cum tribute. Proper men contact me and ask permission to do a cum tribute! Either way, I don't want random dick pics or jerk off videos.

If you do get to know me online a bit, be respectful of what you ask me. Don't get personal with me. You don't need to know about my personal life in any way, only my online life is all you get to know. So don't be pushy asking us personal details. No porn star wants to talk about their family, children, etc. It's creepy when you ask.

On that same note, if you find that we get to know each other a bit please be careful of stepping over the line. Some girls like to get really dirty while others don't. If you found a dirty girl then good for you! If not, that's okay too! But don't push it either way.

I hate to spoil any fantasies out there but you won't be hooking up with porn stars. It's just not going to happen. Yes, there are exceptions. Like, if you're a porn star yourself. Even then, you're going to pay a lot for the experience. Don't expect a porn star to just fall in love with you. Even if you think they are, they aren't. It's a job and they're all here for the same thing: money. They're putting on a show, an act, for money. It's as simple as that.

Don't think you can tell a porn start you're a producer and they're going to gush all over you either. Doesn't work that way. The same applies for those who think they'll "start a porn business" so they can have sex with porn stars. It's expensive to do that and girls are onto BS-ers who talk big. You're best bet at having sex with a sex worker is to try the services of an escort. Better be super nice and follow their rules when contacting them though! And remember, they get to decide if they'll have sex with you or not. Buyer beware.

Speaking of money, let's talk about tipping etiquette. You like porn, right? But you now know that we all make porn so we can make money. Sure, I love porn. I love making porn. I love being a porn star. Can't believe I do, but I do! But I still am here to make a living off of it. It's a business and I want to profit from it even if I spend most of the profits on more porn stuff (cameras, lights, outfits, lube by the truckload, etc). I still need to make money. Otherwise I'm fucking and losing money because it costs money to make porn! Cameras, lights, towels, toys, outfits, computer for editing, editing software, back drives, and on and on. It's expensive to make porn and I'd rather be able to cover the costs by making money from my porn.

So tip your sex workers well! Or, if you can't tip well, just tip them something. Coffee money (say $5) is nice and adds up. Honestly, a $1 tip at least says you appreciate the porn star you watched because you took the time to bravely enter your credit card on a porn site! Or, buy your favorite videos rather than streaming for free. That way you can download it once and always have it with you. This helps support us so we can pay our bills. Like what I do? Then you can buy my videos on Modelhub, Manyvids, AmateurPorn, Clips4Sale, or (and this is my favorite one) just tip me right on Pornhub. $5. $10. $50. $100. Whatever you want! I even have an Amazon Wishlist you can buy from.

Try tipping me and then message me and tell me what you're into. You'd be amazed at how we bend over backwards to make videos our tippers love. A great example is our "Cheating wife" video here that we did for a big tipper. The bigger the tip, the more we will want to do for you in our next video.

So let's sum it all up. As a porn star, I want to hear from you. I love hearing from my fans, we all do! But don't be a dick. Use manners and get to know me. And show your support by tipping whatever you can.

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