Anal sex. It's the holy grail of sex and porn videos for many people. Why is it so appealing to so many though? Some of the reasons are obvious. It's always been a taboo topic and taboo tends to be interesting to many people. But it also can feel really, really good and give amazing orgasms.
A lot of people would like to try it but simply don't or can't. Maybe you're a guy and your partner doesn't like the idea of your dick in their asshole. Tough to blame them when you really think about what you're asking them to do!
Maybe you're a girl who is curious and either doesn't have a partner willing to slide into your ass (yea right!) or, more likely, you're just afraid it will hurt. Or maybe you're worried it will get really gross and messy or smelly. All solid reasons to be a little afraid of anal.
I never thought I'd be in a position to help people with a subject like this but maybe I can. This is one of the most common questions I get from fans: How can I convince my girl to try anal sex?
Before we get started note that I'm not a doctor (though I do dress up like a nurse at times!) and not giving you any type of medical advice here. I'm a girl who one day tried anal and didn't like it. But over time I learned to love it. What I'm doing is sharing my experience on what worked for me because maybe it will work for you too. Or maybe it won't.
Regardless, dump out before you try anal. I don't suggest having a poo right before anal though. Maybe an hour or half hour before, go poop and clean yourself off. This will minimize the mess that anal sometimes brings with.
Some porn stars will even give themselves a water enema to really clear themselves out. I've never tried that but could see how doing so would probably make for the cleanest possible experience. Still, it seems like a lot of effort and mess of its own so I haven't really found this to be necessary for me.
There are plenty of other lubes on the market as well so pick any one you like. We just find that coconut oil is very slippery (so it feels great) and doesn't dry up like many lubes do. Whatever you choose, use plenty because too much friction is a bad thing here.
So start small in terms of object size as well as depth and duration. In fact, for a while, don't even penetrate the asshole at all. Try a small dildo or finger (nails clipped and filed smooth of course) on the outside of your butt hole. A gentle rubbing is all it takes so you can get comfortable.
When you're ready, and this may be minutes later or several sessions later, try working a little bit of the finger in there. Go slow and gentle. Don't force anything. Just apply a tiny amount of pressure and as the girl relaxes, her butt will essentially just "allow" the finger to slide in. Just the tip though! Don't get crazy right away. I find this works best with the girl on top, riding the guy. A dick in the pussy and finger in the ass can feel amazing and give incredible orgasms.
If you want to take more then give it a try. I would suggest, for now, mostly taking the dildo in and not moving it much once it is in. Get used to it just being in there. Over time you can go bigger, if you choose, and/or moving them in and out of your butt as you wish.
If you struggle with even a small object, trying pulling your butt cheeks apart. You may need to just do this during insertion or may find that holding them apart the entire time is best.
If you find that you can take the dildos without a problem you may be ready to try a dick in your ass. You're guy will love this for sure. That first time he goes in will be magical, especially for him. Just make sure he doesn't fuck your ass like it's your pussy if you aren't ready for that. You being on top of him is usually the best and gives you the most control.
If you can't stand it or don't like the pain go slower and/or smaller. If even the tiniest finger is too much then maybe it's just not for you. That's your call to make. Never let anyone talk you into this.
In some cases, you may see actual poo. This is gross. This is embarrassing for the girl. This is a fact of anal. The deeper you go, the more likely you'll see some sort of poo when you pull out. If you're a guy, don't point out the poo on your dick to the girl. Ever. Have towels ready and simply cover your dick in one as you pull out and go wash off. Then wash it again, twice more. Use soap. This is poo we're talking about!
If there was poo on your dick when you pulled out, give the girl a wipe with your towel as well. Using a clean towel, wipe once from the vagina towards the asshole, never the other way around in case any leaked out onto her. This will help ensure it doesn't end up in her vaginal area, more on that later.
Often it won't be messy or gross at all. Often you won't see anything come out at all. But you should just assume it may get a tiny bit messy. Put towels under you for sure. It's bad enough having a wet spot on the sheets from vaginal sex. But a wet and brown spot from anal on the sheets is disgusting.
When you're all done, clean up well. Washing yourselves properly. Go pee as well, which is something you should always do after sex as it can help clean and clear out both male and female urethras (pee holes) and lessen the chance of bacteria getting up there and causing problems (like a UTI, see below).
If you have anal sex, then whatever was in your butt needs to be washed thoroughly before going anywhere else. I don't care how fun you think this is, for the girl it's a potential health nightmare.
So what can go wrong? The girl can very easily get a urinary tract infection (UTI) because the bacteria in the poo ends up in your urethra (the pee hole). UTI's are treatable but painful for the girl. Worse, if she has sex with you with a UTI you can get the UTI as well. The gift that keeps on giving! Or, if she has a UTI she'll likely not have sex until it is gone (treatment often requires antibiotics and about a week of time).
In some cases, that UTI can develop into a kidney infection and even heavier antibiotics and more healing time are required. In either case, and for many women, taking antibiotics can lead to a yeast infection (vaginal and oral, also called thrush when it's oral) which means no oral sex, no vaginal sex, no kissing, etc for a couple of weeks potentially. Not to mention, taking antibiotics is just bad as you tend to develope immunity to them and then one day they just won't work for you.
So why risk it? What's the thrill in ATM and ATP anyhow? Probably because it's taboo. If you must do it, just go wash your dick off really well with soap and warm water (several times) before swithing holes. Treat your woman like the goddess she is and make sure she doesn't develop health issues because then she really won't want to try anal again!
A lot of people would like to try it but simply don't or can't. Maybe you're a guy and your partner doesn't like the idea of your dick in their asshole. Tough to blame them when you really think about what you're asking them to do!
Maybe you're a girl who is curious and either doesn't have a partner willing to slide into your ass (yea right!) or, more likely, you're just afraid it will hurt. Or maybe you're worried it will get really gross and messy or smelly. All solid reasons to be a little afraid of anal.
I never thought I'd be in a position to help people with a subject like this but maybe I can. This is one of the most common questions I get from fans: How can I convince my girl to try anal sex?
Before we get started note that I'm not a doctor (though I do dress up like a nurse at times!) and not giving you any type of medical advice here. I'm a girl who one day tried anal and didn't like it. But over time I learned to love it. What I'm doing is sharing my experience on what worked for me because maybe it will work for you too. Or maybe it won't.
Clear Out
Literally. Clear yourself out. Having a four item combo platter (extra beans of course) at your favorite Mexican restaurant 3 hours before having anal sex is a bad idea. So watch what you eat the day you plan to do anal. Doesn't mean you can't eat but just be aware of your food choices here.Regardless, dump out before you try anal. I don't suggest having a poo right before anal though. Maybe an hour or half hour before, go poop and clean yourself off. This will minimize the mess that anal sometimes brings with.
Some porn stars will even give themselves a water enema to really clear themselves out. I've never tried that but could see how doing so would probably make for the cleanest possible experience. Still, it seems like a lot of effort and mess of its own so I haven't really found this to be necessary for me.
Lube
Use lube. Use plenty of lube. This cannot be stressed enough! Lube is your friend when it comes to anal sex. Your enemy? Dryness. We use this virgin coconut oil for our lube. Is that the best option and safe? Not a lawyer or doctor so do your own research. Mine tells me it is safe and our experience tells us it works the best, for us. We use it for all of our sex lube and that's all we use and have for years now.There are plenty of other lubes on the market as well so pick any one you like. We just find that coconut oil is very slippery (so it feels great) and doesn't dry up like many lubes do. Whatever you choose, use plenty because too much friction is a bad thing here.
Go Small Or Don't Go
I can't stress this one enough: start small. Deciding to take a giant thing up your ass one day when you've never done it before won't end well. It will hurt and will leave you with a bad memory of your first anal experience. You don't want that.So start small in terms of object size as well as depth and duration. In fact, for a while, don't even penetrate the asshole at all. Try a small dildo or finger (nails clipped and filed smooth of course) on the outside of your butt hole. A gentle rubbing is all it takes so you can get comfortable.
When you're ready, and this may be minutes later or several sessions later, try working a little bit of the finger in there. Go slow and gentle. Don't force anything. Just apply a tiny amount of pressure and as the girl relaxes, her butt will essentially just "allow" the finger to slide in. Just the tip though! Don't get crazy right away. I find this works best with the girl on top, riding the guy. A dick in the pussy and finger in the ass can feel amazing and give incredible orgasms.
Anal Training
When you're up for it and have done anal fingering for a while then you may want to try some further anal training. I would suggest buying some anal dildos of various sizes to see what you are comfortable with. Lube them up and, just like the finger, use a very gentle pressure until the ass slowly swallows up the tip of the dildo.If you want to take more then give it a try. I would suggest, for now, mostly taking the dildo in and not moving it much once it is in. Get used to it just being in there. Over time you can go bigger, if you choose, and/or moving them in and out of your butt as you wish.
If you struggle with even a small object, trying pulling your butt cheeks apart. You may need to just do this during insertion or may find that holding them apart the entire time is best.
If you find that you can take the dildos without a problem you may be ready to try a dick in your ass. You're guy will love this for sure. That first time he goes in will be magical, especially for him. Just make sure he doesn't fuck your ass like it's your pussy if you aren't ready for that. You being on top of him is usually the best and gives you the most control.
Does It Hurt?
It can hurt. Especially when you're new. But usually because you're taking in too much. Go slow and it likely won't hurt at all or maybe just a little. I find it's sort of a pleasure-pain situation and that's part of the appeal for me.If you can't stand it or don't like the pain go slower and/or smaller. If even the tiniest finger is too much then maybe it's just not for you. That's your call to make. Never let anyone talk you into this.
Will It Be Messy?
Sometimes. Look, we all know what comes out of butts. Poo. It's a simple fact. Stick something in a butt and what comes out may not be clean. If you had a poo first, you'll likely be cleaner. Clean is relative of course. Even if you don't see actual poo on the item coming out of your butt, it is by no means clean. More on that in a bit.In some cases, you may see actual poo. This is gross. This is embarrassing for the girl. This is a fact of anal. The deeper you go, the more likely you'll see some sort of poo when you pull out. If you're a guy, don't point out the poo on your dick to the girl. Ever. Have towels ready and simply cover your dick in one as you pull out and go wash off. Then wash it again, twice more. Use soap. This is poo we're talking about!
If there was poo on your dick when you pulled out, give the girl a wipe with your towel as well. Using a clean towel, wipe once from the vagina towards the asshole, never the other way around in case any leaked out onto her. This will help ensure it doesn't end up in her vaginal area, more on that later.
Often it won't be messy or gross at all. Often you won't see anything come out at all. But you should just assume it may get a tiny bit messy. Put towels under you for sure. It's bad enough having a wet spot on the sheets from vaginal sex. But a wet and brown spot from anal on the sheets is disgusting.
When you're all done, clean up well. Washing yourselves properly. Go pee as well, which is something you should always do after sex as it can help clean and clear out both male and female urethras (pee holes) and lessen the chance of bacteria getting up there and causing problems (like a UTI, see below).
Ass To Mouth / Ass To Pussy
You see this one all the time in porn. The guy is having anal sex with the girl and then pulls it out of her ass and sticks it in her vagina or mouth. This is not a good idea. Forget that it's just dirty and gross. It's an actual health concern!If you have anal sex, then whatever was in your butt needs to be washed thoroughly before going anywhere else. I don't care how fun you think this is, for the girl it's a potential health nightmare.
So what can go wrong? The girl can very easily get a urinary tract infection (UTI) because the bacteria in the poo ends up in your urethra (the pee hole). UTI's are treatable but painful for the girl. Worse, if she has sex with you with a UTI you can get the UTI as well. The gift that keeps on giving! Or, if she has a UTI she'll likely not have sex until it is gone (treatment often requires antibiotics and about a week of time).
In some cases, that UTI can develop into a kidney infection and even heavier antibiotics and more healing time are required. In either case, and for many women, taking antibiotics can lead to a yeast infection (vaginal and oral, also called thrush when it's oral) which means no oral sex, no vaginal sex, no kissing, etc for a couple of weeks potentially. Not to mention, taking antibiotics is just bad as you tend to develope immunity to them and then one day they just won't work for you.
So why risk it? What's the thrill in ATM and ATP anyhow? Probably because it's taboo. If you must do it, just go wash your dick off really well with soap and warm water (several times) before swithing holes. Treat your woman like the goddess she is and make sure she doesn't develop health issues because then she really won't want to try anal again!
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